Goal Setting

After coming to the realization that I had accomplished very little last year, I decided to make some changes.  Any time you want to do anything, you have to be ready for the change.  You have to commit.  Going in all willy-nilly only leads to failure and subsequent disappointment.

DisciplineI wanted to be…better, in all aspects of my life.  So, I decided to mix things up and create for myself a new schedule that would lead me to the things I wanted.  I wanted to get fit, so I’ve made it a goal to work out every other day.  So far, I’ve been pretty good about it, and I do feel better.  I wanted to read more, since last year I didn’t read a single book, and I’m close to finishing no#5.  I wanted to write more, and I’m on a third rewrite of my tv pilot, I’ve written more fanfic, and I’ve taken on more Writing Prompt Challenges.

Additionally, I’m working on the show bible and making headway into the many writing books I’ve had on my shelf for years to determine which are truly useful.  The only “new thing” I wanted by now was a different job.  I’m still working on it.  Of course there are plenty of other things I’d like to do this year, but you know, one step at a time.

I’m not sure where I found this three step system, but I thought I would share it with you in the hopes that you can achieve your goals, writing or otherwise.

  1. Identify your big picture – brainstorm all the things you’d like to see yourself accomplishing and then streamline them into one overall phrase: “I want to…
  2. Outline the steps you need to take to accomplish the goal.
  3. Set benchmarks – create accountability and assess forward movement.  Set dates.

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Because of the job situation, which has lead to monetary issues, I am unable to enter any writing contests this year, which is disappointing.  Instead of looking at it as a negative, I’m trying to think of it as a gift – I have a year to get my writing “show” ready.

I printed out monthly calendars in order to set those benchmarks, dates when I want to have certain projects completed.  I’m working with only three months at a time, so it doesn’t seem so overwhelming.  I’ve tacked the calendars to the wall next to my computer to use as motivation.  I’m a big advocate for visually identifying deadlines.  Just holding on to the idea of a deadline somehow makes it feel less relevant.  Seeing that April 15th (let’s just say) date circled, highlighted, marked in red, or what-have-you gives it more weight, makes it feel more real and impending, and sometimes we need that pressure to get things done.

WhereFocusGoesLife gets busy.  It’s easy to get sidetracked.  Sometimes it’s comforting to get lost in TV and gaming, I should know, but in order to reach our goals and follow our dreams, we have to be relentless in that pursuit.

Not every step toward our goal needs to be a big one, even the small ones get us a little closer each day!

As you know, I love a good quote, so here are a few to keep you motivated:

And remember, it only takes a couple of weeks to create a new habit. 😉

Wishing you all the very best!

Quote Monday

I just finished reading The Giver by Lois Lowry.  It was a book The Sis had recommended I read, and I thoroughly enjoyed it.  Quick premise: The story is about a society where people’s choices have become extinct.  In an effort to make everyone the same, the community has instilled rules and methods that maintain a norm that no one questions, except for Jonas, after being chosen to be the Receiver of Memory.

It’s a Newbery Medal winner and it’s one of those novels that makes you reflect upon your own life.  It makes you wonder if having your elders choose for you, both your career and your mate, is not better.  When given our own lives to govern, how often do we make the wrong choices?  It’s the difference between free will and the greater good, so to speak.

I’ve been encouraged to do something I really don’t want to do, in part because it holds no true value or long term security, and yet, it’s still being offered up as the right choice.  Left with few other alternatives, it’s quickly becoming the only choice, and I resent it.  How did this happen?  I feel, sometimes, like I lost myself along the way.  Not in my writing life, but in my “real” life.

I need the wise words of a mentor.  If you’re out there, please find me! 😉

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This week’s quote seems rather apropos in light of my current circumstance.  As creatives, we’re already marching to the beat of our own drummer.  Now we only have to be brave enough to see where it leads.

Best wishes!

A Special Quote of the Week

I’ve been waiting for the right opportunity to use this week’s quote. Honoring International Women’s Day is that time.

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Celebrate the amazing women in your life (and maybe not just today)!  Women often don’t say they need help.  They hide their feelings.  They struggle in silence.

Let the women in your life know you’re there to support them.  Help them be a force to be reckoned with!

Quote of the Week

I have mixed feelings about this week’s quote:

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I like it, but it makes me think.  Creatives, in general, often create in solitude.  There are many opportunities for collaboration, but when we begin our artistic path, it’s usually just us and our work.

Social media allows creatives a number of avenues to boast of their accomplishments, no matter how great or small, and this, to me, seems a ploy to seek outside encouragement and gratification even if it’s not quite warranted.

This quote also makes me wonder how long we should “suffer in silence”?  The creative path benefits, I believe, from networking with others who understand; mentors who have come before and have knowledge and experience and the beginners who may see the ever-changing world differently.  We all benefit from both youth and experience.

I’ve been rewriting the space pilot, and because I love the work, I don’t find that it’s “hard”.  Obviously, some days are more difficult than others, but when you find something you love, the ‘hard’ in hard work, I don’t believe means the same thing anymore.

Maybe this quote is similar to the old adage, “let your work speak for itself”.

What do you think about this week’s quote?  I’d love to hear your ideas and interpretation.

Have a great week!

*I don’t think this piece could have been written any more disjointed.  It’s how my mind was bouncing between ideas, and that seems to have translated directly to the page…enjoy. 😉

Quote Monday

My birthday was sort of a bust this year so I’ve decided to indulge, wherever and whenever I can, until the end of the month.  Yes, this is a forewarning that my blog may be transformed into a steady stream of my favorite things for at least 7 more days.  😉

Exhibit A: this week’s quote.  I used it on my university graduation announcements, and it’s something I need to remind myself of, often.

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Have a wonderful week, my friends!

Quote of the Week

As writers, and creatives, in general, we tend to overthink every. little. thing.  We can create an entire novel or screenplay in our minds, so it’s no wonder that we are capable of making great leaps with just a tidbit of information.

We see the world differently, and that’s a good thing.  We also tend to be extremely hard on ourselves.  Nothing is ever good enough; not us, not our work.

This is simply not true.

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We, each, have a voice and we have chosen this difficult path because of the passion we have for storytelling.  Yes, everyone has a story to tell, but not everyone can write a compelling tale.  How many times have you said you’re a writer and been met with the “I have a story for you” response?  I’ve had people call me out of the blue to ask if I’d be up for writing their life story.

First of all, that’s not my genre.  If we were actually friends, you’d probably know that.  I’m good, by the way, mind overflowing with characters and backdrops, but thanks for thinking of me…?

How about you keep that story for your next cocktail party.

I believe being a writer is a calling.  If you can’t give it up, then keep at it!  This is why we have to do our best to remain positive.  It’s takes a great deal of self-confidence and optimism to follow such a dream, so when that little voice in the back of your mind starts to get a bit mouthy, remember this quote, and keep working until you silence it.

Happy Writing!

 

Quote Monday

After last week’s post, I sort of went on a mental holiday.  As a favor, a friend of mine let me borrow his XBox One.  For those of you who know of my love for the Dragon Age series, you can imagine my excitement at finally getting to play the DLCs.  More on that later.  When people let you borrow their things, regardless of their reassurances that you may keep said item(s) for an extended period of time, you don’t want to take advantage, and so I played Dragon Age like a crack-addled crazy person without a care in the world.  Translation: I played a lot, for days on end.

It’s easy to get lost in such an immersive world where your decisions seem to matter.  Whereas in life, you may be struggling and feeling insignificant, in my gamer life I was reunited with old friends, stopped an invasion, slayed two dragons, and even got married. 😉  Not a bad week.

In real life, I still haven’t had a single response to any of the applications I’ve submitted for a new job, I had a few rotten shifts which in turn caused me to have to borrow money to pay rent and buy food, and I mistakenly received a text from my boss, clearly meant for someone else, in which she insulted me.  Real life sucks sometimes.WhereFocusGoes

And that’s why we have to get up, brush ourselves off, and kick reality in the teeth!  This may be the pre-birthday doldrums talking, but I want my life to not be…this.  If I were in a princess movie, the handsome prince (who happens to look like Tom Hiddleston) would be riding up on his white steed to save me The Oddsright about now, but as we all know, life is hardly a fairy tale, and we have to make our own future.

Both of these quotes spoke to me this week because I have been focusing on the wrong things and worrying about the future of my career.  I was doing really well on the new schedule, focused and determined, but something threw me off course and now is the time to correct that.

If you’ve made big changes, I’d love to hear your story; how you did it, and if you found the result you were seeking.

Have a great week!

 

Quote Monday

I’m going to ramble for a moment, so please bear with me while I vent.

In last week’s Writing Prompt post I mentioned how I was struggling with choices. Before the end of the year, I was doing some hard thinking about plans for the future.  The Sis and I moved back to Las Vegas a little over a year ago for a number of reasons, one being that she finish her undergrad and then we move on.  Unfortunately, she has now found a job she truly enjoys, she’s making friends, and getting herself together.  She’s currently taking the semester off.

It seems unfair to uproot yet again, but I don’t want to stay here.  I don’t like Vegas.  Never have.  I’m tired of moving…we’ve moved so. many. times, but I want to find a place to call “home”.  I’ve only felt that sense of home once, when I traveled to England for the first time.  I felt it before we even landed.  That’s when the obsession began.  And, that’s what I’m looking for.  As much as I’d like to do a final move across the sea, there’s just no way that’s even remotely possible in my current state.

So here’s “the thing”, the thing that’s been lingering at the back of my mind, the thing I never want to say out loud.  I want to be a screenwriter, but all screenwriters know it takes at least 5 years to make any headway (once you legitimately hit the pavement – so I still have about 4 years), and I don’t want to flounder in this state, without purpose, without direction, for upwards of 5 or more years.  I don’t want to hold down a menial job that I loathe until things work out.  Yes, I’m still trying to remain positive, hence the lack of the dangerous “if”.

I want a job I enjoy.  I want to buy a house.  I want to plan for the future but I feel as if I’m destined to remain in this perpetual state of limbo.  It all comes back around to choices.  I’ve made choices that have led me to where I am, but I’m finding it difficult to make choices that will encourage change…in part because I don’t know where to begin.

Do I suck it up and make it work where I am, or do I continue to seek out that thing that I know is out there?  How does one move forward when they’re kind of stuck due to obligation and circumstance?  How do people get their act together?

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Any advice from fellow creatives would be greatly appreciated.  How do you make it work, find balance, and stay sane?

Quote Monday

I’ve heard people say they are afraid of accomplishing their goals, of getting what they’ve worked so hard for.  It seems an odd thing to fear, but sometimes we struggle for so long that the struggle, in itself, becomes comforting.  Like anything, good or bad, we grow accustomed to what we’re used to and anything else, such as change, is cause for fear.

We all tell ourselves something – something that makes us feel better, something that lessens the regret, something that keeps us stationary – it’s a habit we need to break.

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Reach for those goals and embrace the good that will come!

Wishing you all the best in your endeavors!